Saturday, April 04, 2009

Facebook Dilemma

Well, it's happened. This morning I found a friend request on my Facebook wall, from someone I really am not inclined to be friends with. It's someone I was once close to, many years ago, but we parted on less than civil terms, and frankly, I still get a bad taste in my mouth when I think of her.

But the Minnesotan in me agonizes over being so rude as to turn down her request to be my FB friend!

Could she be trying to reconcile? Could she have different (more positive) memories of those years?

Have you ever turned down a friend request? And, since we are sort of on the topic, have you ever "unfriended" someone? There is someone who I am already friends with who I really want to unfriend - but that makes me nervous, too! I think that they don't receive any notification of anything, so it's not obvious, but ????? (and it's none of YOU, don't worry!)

I need advice - please let me know!

8 comments:

athena said...

i've never turned down a friend request from someone i knew (only those i don't know). there are one or two that i didn't part on good terms but what's past is past and i've matured (and i hope they have too). hope things turn out ok!

athena (friend of calandria's). :)

Calandria said...

i haven't turned anyone down i know. there are a few (no one here!) who i've "hidden." i haven't unfriended anyone and i can't see myself doing that.

shawn said...

I have hit ignore to a request once.. I don't think they get anything... I have never unfriended someone.. not enough people... but there is one I would like to unfriend.. hm...
so, I dont' know what you should do.. maybe hit ignore.. and then you have time to think about it.. and if she resends you an invite.. well then you can think about it...

Mama Ava said...

I turn down tons of people, by hitting the ignore button. I don't think they get any kind of notification because a couple have reasked. Early on I accepted a few people who I recognized from high school. I hardly knew them then and now I really have no interest in their lives. They've never commented to me, nor I to them. So now I just ignore people that I don't have any interest in having on a list.

Barb said...

I deleted my FB account for this reason. Well, for lots of reasons but I was really relieved to delete it because of this one. People would find me and I have a lot of readers I don't even know who wanted to be my friends but what if they're weird pedophiles and here I've just invited them right into my life?

I don't know. Too much angst is not good for social networking. But I WILL say that I just let a lot of the friend requests just kind of...sit there, without response. The old head in the sand trick.

Jeannie said...

I haven't had to do it yet, but I would do the ignore thing and hope they go away.

Jeannie

premenopaws said...

I'm totally going to go try to friend you right now, just to see if you ignore me :-).

Karen ~ said...

You are too funny! I would accept YOUR friend invite immediatly.